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我不太知道中国人怎么看结婚,怎么决定结婚的对方什么的,但是到现在为止一直认为,为了结婚,要自信。要相信她真爱你,而且你真爱她。要有自信可以相信她,要自信你可以为她一直加油,可以一直支持她。如果你没有自信,怎么能说Yes呢?

很奇怪的是,为什么我去年夏天没有足够的自信,现在感觉到有自信了。我觉得我现在的自信不是幻想或者绝望。自信有什么来源,从哪里来的?也许是经验,也许是比较明白自己了。过了痛苦的时间,学习自助的书,考虑很多,加油做改善自己的活动,意外地发现自信越来越出来了。

我爱的人去年告诉我”If you do good things, good things will happen”, 意思大概是如果你做好事,好事会出来(也许这个翻译不太正确)。我必须尽力继续做good things。

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18 Responses to “自信”

  1. Judy

    i read your blog in a long time. but i did not write anything before. Actually, i envy you. at least the girl you loved, who knows you are loving her, i also have one,whom i loved very much, but he even does not know anything about it. sigh!

  2. Judy

    I don’t want to tell him that i like or love him, i just want to see or appreciate him, that’s enough for me, due to we are in the different level. he is so excellent, smart and outstanding, i am only a so so oen. ^^ but i don’t care. I already put him as a target(which is not the marriage target, just study or work target or career target) to make great efforts to. I do hope one day i could make my dreams(which related my work and study) come true, also that outstanding. ^^

    Judy cheer up !

  3. 壹小碗

    “If you do good things, good things will happen”是不是可以翻译为善有善报呢?

  4. Abbie

    在会发生在双方都热爱与相信自己as much as(or at least nearly as much as)热爱和相信对方的前提下的婚姻才会稳定与美好吧。
    我觉得自信来自独立的经济能力与思考能力,以及不断地信息获取、加工与自我表达,包括语言的表达和行动的表达(就像你说的做good things)。

  5. 力马克

    叫I’ll be back 歌手Shawn Colvin, 原来的歌曲作者是 John Lennon, Paul McCartney

  6. langmei

    你确实是非常坚持与执着,明白自己真正的需要,令我感到很羡慕与感动!

  7. 西安陈

    If you do good things, good things will happen的意思,我理解是“好人有好报”
    就是说你做了好事,就会得到好的报答。

  8. 若水思源

    在中国女孩子选择男朋友主要注重三点:1.男朋友的现在,如你现在需要有房子,车子或者稳定的收入等等(这是大多数女生看重的)。2.男朋友有一个有财力、有背景的家庭,男的可以每多少能力,但是却有好的基础。3.男朋友必须有能力,也许他现在不富裕,但是却是一支潜力股。通常具备了任何一个条件都不难找到女朋友。当然自信往往很重要,不过感情的事情不是一个人能决定的,你自己感觉挺有自信的,但是你不能决定对方的想法,你能做到的就是通过自己的行为来影响对方的思想,从而来影响她的决定。

  9. Dimitry Yang

    Hi, Mark. This is the first time viewing your Blog. But I like it. And I like the song also. John Lennon is one of my favourite singer, but this version by Shawn Colvin is also pleasant to hear.
    Be confidence, maybe some people think that is based on good economic strength, Praise from others, or thought being above other after comparisions. But I think our confidences should come from responsibility, kind-hearted, love and good judgement.
    1. Responsibility: It should let you insist on doing something which you thought it was right or ought to do.
    2. kind-hearted. It is somelike “If you do good things, good things will happen”.
    3. Love. Love is the source of confidence. If you have love, you will have full of power.
    4. Good Judgement. I think this is the ability of yourself. Reading books, raise your ability. Just let yourself more powerful.

    Cheer UP~!

  10. shinichi

    “很奇怪的是,为什么我去年夏天没有足够的自信,现在感觉到有自信了。”
    我也曾经像这样,后来自信了。也许太喜欢某人,真的会迷失自己
    祝你好运!

  11. hope

    从这些留言中,我能感觉到这些都是男人的劝慰,如果让我这个女人看这个问题,我的理解是mark在一些事情上做的也许不够好,也许是平常两人相处时,女孩感觉到一些事情,对方没有做好,希望mark以后在做一些事情上要注意.